Humans are extremely poor at listening.
You have probably been there – looking to discuss an important topic at home or at work and the person you are speaking with is distracted, looking around the room, clearly not focussed on what you have to say. It is immensely frustrating – you have a genuine wish to communicate and your listener appears uninterested.
And, if you are not a skilled active listener, you have probably committed the crime yourself. Listening to your colleague, you are already formulating your response, so your attention is only half on what is being said.
Or, even worse, you spot somebody more important, or more urgent (neither of which should really ever apply) and end the conversation before moving off to join the newcomer.
The consequences for poor listening in the workplace are considerable.
But the thing is, it is not as though we usually seek to actively non-listen to our colleagues. It is just that listening is something we do need to be trained to do. There is a difference between hearing, and listening.
Active listening is the process by which all involved communicate better, and improve mutual understanding of the topic in hand. It is estimated that only half, and often less, of what we listen to we actually retain. When we do things, we understand them, when we see them we remember them better, but when we hear, we forget. Unless we are active listeners. And the wonderful thing about listening is that we can take in information incredibly quickly; much more so than reading or even watching.
The PRISM collaboration toolkit from Wheelhouse Education and Learning is an excellent way you and your team can train yourselves to become active listeners. The PRISM Toolkit provides a simple process for holding peer discussions that can help a business enormously.
Members of your group become a genuine team, all feeling valued and all clear on the direction of a particular objective. Once the skill of active listening has been acquired, it can be spread to other members of your organisation through peer mentoring, leading to overall better standards of communication, understanding and therefore achievement.
Most of us are born with the ability to hear, but listening is a skill that needs to be taught.
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